That’s a direct result from fear of punishing them appropriately. And that was the only time he ever raised his hands to me. My son, an avid 10 year old hockey goalie on a travelling team had to phone his coach and say he could not come to hockey because his room was not clean or tidy. Be safe out there, Santa.” I pretend hung up and immediately began coming up with a letter to my son telling him the importance of appreciation and humility. It was a memorable punishment and I didn’t have to abuse them to teach them. He was nearly 7 yrs old and I couldn’t believe the fit he was throwing! To be frank the paddling didn’t smart half as much as the abject humiliation. I told him if he didn’t stop I would tickle him until he wet him self. His pants are always completely soaked when we’re done. My sister did that it was not good. My new duck boots got lost in the red mud and I was caked with it. All of my candy ended up in the garbage bag. You’ll just hide them from me. We THOUGHT she had caved in when she pulled into the drive through and ordered the his and hers meals…but it was only a clever trick to keep us quiet. We have 6 kids between us, 4 that live with us. When I was about 9 – 10 years old, I was playing a game at Sam’s Club, and my dad kept telling me to stop or he was going to leave me. On the way to see my grandparents, my cousin and I fought the whole way (35 kilometres), with my mother threatening to put us in the boot (trunk) if we kept it up. hay A honey wen u were with the horses u never ever thought over stroking there big huge fat cocks i know u had a thought in ur mind cuz all d hung asf andci wanna see u take a big fat horses cock in ur tight ass pussy and ass baby can u handle it lets talk shawty ima fuckin freak gurl so me or text me 7347965506 love always pauly. Mit Flexionstabellen der verschiedenen Fälle und Zeiten Aussprache und … I bet if he got beaten with a belt for something he couldn’t control at all he’d call it torture. She took this time to scream at the toop of her lungs. Their dad just made the assumption that they were covering up or complicit. Mom, however, always used it as a last result, after a time out & an explaination. And yes, there are some parents who are physically abusive, but I never once feared my dad the whole three times he spanked me in my life time. Polite in public, and VERY caring individuals. And he’s currently on an undetermined hiatus from the ipad. But nobody asks themselves that and nobody never wakes up and realises that their point of view isnt the same for child. That dang balloon came in the front again and before I could even think, I snatched it, bit a hole in it, and tossed that deflated sad little balloon over my shoulder right back at them. That was a good idea and you should spank your children bare bottom so it hurts worse than leaving them outside all day. Child Labor. Needless to say, they were much better behaved after that and were able to go the next day with much corrected attitudes.” – Carinn, “Just last night, I cancelled my 8 year-old’s birthday sleepover. Before I was adopted I was forced to visit my birth mother. I was 6 and she was 8 at the time. All sorts of rules, training, vetting procedures need to be introduced to ensure that all is carried out correctly, increasing bureaucracy and expense. One of those same sisters has a daughter who is amazing, intelligent, obedient and helpful. he came in and put it all into a bag as i was waking up. Homework not done 3 swats. Maybe Santa felt bad for you.”. Library of Congress. The worse thing my Dad did when we were younger that I distinctly remember is following through on spankings – with the belt – when we didn’t tell the truth. I get that balloons are fun and they are children, but they need to get that a moving vehicle is not a playground. Your post indicates that you have MUCH to learn about child psychology specifically, and humanity in general!! threatening a 3 year old child with abandoning her is a terrible thing to say. Other times we have to spank. I work nightshift so I tend to be the person friends call if their children get sent home from school. Lol, Yeah tickling can be super mean. My mom was a genius at making sure the punishment fit the crime. They’re MINE! I have two stories, both about punishments my mom has given to my brothers. So, you think people in prison live better than those on the outside?! I couldn’t go to Christmas Eve Service at church and I was allowed to open my presents on Christmas morning but I couldn’t take them out of the box or play with them. Your forgetting the difference the understanding of the time. By the time my mom brought up my breakfast, my room was clean.” – Nelly, “I was taking the kids to Sesame Place with two friends and their kids. It really gets him to stop whatever he was doing! old-fashioned synonyms, old-fashioned pronunciation, old-fashioned translation, English dictionary definition of old-fashioned. Once or twice, she put a sticker on the wall in the corner, just above nose level, and made us stand on our toes to touch our nose to it for ten minutes. So people need to cool their jets when they hear corporal punishment. Spanking with a clear explanation teaches them that there are DIRECT consequences to their actions. When they woke the baby up, daddy had had enough. My father would than spank me over his knee in my underwear with my mother and sometimes even my sister present. Want a lolly pop. But we find ways to turn that into an opportunity to learn and grow. I vividly remember the day my Dad taught me the consequences of lying. I think the remorse came from the fact that Lego isn’t exactly cheap and it really did occupy us for hours on end. He only took out what he wanted to play with and put it back before taking out another and his floor was clean every night before he went to bed. I admit it. Hi men french spanker juste ok otk hand longt buttlook red ok. Our daughter started puberty just after age 12,and started wetting the bed every night.To be eco friendly we used cloth diapers and plastic pants[rubberpants] on her evry night.She wasnt overly happy about wearing them,but accepted them. My Mom had bought some things for a church function and had told us not to open the chips. That same sister is VERY uninvolved with her kids and much more worried about her next tattoo or going out to sing karaoke or her new boyfriend, yet her daughter is mature and wonderful. One day he claimed that he deserved a toy every time we went shopping. She had such a good time getting to know her Mom. I will never forget that day almost 60 years ago now. They called me once about my child’s diaper rash, after an over zealous daycare worker reported it. There’s other ways to punish, I find this the easy way out. Real life consequences for negative behavior is the only way to go. I wanted to hear the stuff family legends are made of. (What’s a time-in, you ask? I always wondered though, if the strike was supposed to be a punishment for my dad too since Mom literally did none of the obvious work around the house and it wasn’t like it had been a planned thing. She got to pass out candy but wasn’t allowed to trick or treat. Please report this image if it contains child sexual abuse, hate speech, privacy breach, or otherwise violates our Terms. This kills him. My sister and I, who often babysat him, would simply whack his bottom a lick or two when he pulled it on us. But it taught the lesson that at the time I so needed, that there are lines, there are things you don’t do and you don’t tolerate. When she demanded I take off my clothes and go outside….I sluggishly made my way right back to my room…fully clothed.” – Sarah, “We canceled my son’s birthday one year when he was caught stealing from school. Then we both cried while we watched her gleefully play with her toys at the table before bath and bedtime. And I don’t see where any of these parents were just wanting their arbitrary rules followed. Wow. I showed it to them and said it’d be waiting in the van. I think the box held 24. Because of that human rights violation stories are coming out of your country left and right. I loved and respected my parents, never feared them, and we had an awesome bond. I did not like it, so I threw a massive temper tantrum, slamming the door, banging on it, and screaming like a banshee. Some are only affected by being embarrassed in front of their peers. HOW SEXUALLY PERVERTED OF YOU TO WISH B.D.S.MY. They need to know there is always hope. Yes, we still left, but those horsicorns upped the consequence to a crazy and unexpected level. Scared of her parents. Sometimes it involves mixed-double [both mother and father]. I don’t know what to say. Your website can go viral. Well my mom got fed up, told me to get out of the car at a rest stop and just drove off, leaving me in the middle of the US at a crappy rest stop, where I couldn’t see her. We then drove to the hospital and donated them to the pediatric ward. I also hope his sister got the help she needed. I lived in a large community when I was young, with 60 or so households, I probably got beaten more than all the other kids combined. So this time I told him he needed to pick up his toys and left his room to make dinner. I also remember that sending me to my room never worked, because I loved being alone in my room! Just thought the fuses blew A LOT…. She hates when I ground her from her books. We became amazingly well behaved. I think the swear word really pushed my dad to follow through with the threat. 1986) found that the parents of the children in the immediate area did not recognize the extent of the anxiety that the children experienced. Your child has an overwhelming desire to be in charge. If it wasn’t for my horse I would be dead. When I was a kid, we had HoHos for dinner. Like most kids, our rooms were hideous. (I know a couple of people who were sexually abused in foster care by a *known*pedophile; the CPS people said it was not their job to do background checks on foster homes.) I don’t know ANYONE who got spankings or minor whooping a who were afraid of their parents. I couldn’t go out , I couldn’t see my friends. Or… the biggest threat they remember their parents following through on when they were kids. Nowadays it appears that rules are meant to be broken and you get away with as much as you can. Each of us had one. Oh, he was let out after a few days, but CPS stood by their statement that not allowing a kid to go to a dance is child abuse. Get Mommy Shorts updates sent directly to your inbox! It was a spanking with a belt. She definitely learned her lesson. The next time one of started doing something she shouldn’t, the other 4 would announce they weren’t taking another spanking for her and put a stop to it themselves. Even if I’d been told not to play with any of my toys, I would sit on the floor and look at my Barbies arranged on the floor, while happily making up stories in my head. Do what works best for your family. After a busy morning playing in the yard and then lunch, I told the kids to lay down on a blanket on the living room floor while I sat in a chair. I am very thankful my parents did not do that to us. It does make me sad your parents raised you by instilling fear. I am older and knew about Santa. My parents made me call Santa and tell him how I didn’t deserve presents because I disobeyed my grandmother. Told my kid to get his grades up, get his license, and quit being a jerk to his mother and me, or we’d sell the new car we had just bought him. I don’t think so. Let’s just say I shut up for the rest of that trip. Any time she was misbehaving (to a considerable degree) he would just turn the power off. We traded other things we had with our friends to get some of our favorite stuff back later, but it was still quite a shocking experience. Felt amazing.” –, “I was taking the kids to the park and they started fighting. no its not.. its called “pushing the limits and dealing with consequences…, No… LOOOONG, obnoxious standards, like, “I will not yell at my sister because she is little and deserves to be treated better” and I would have to write it 50 times before I could play, leave, watch TV, etc. This genius method of discipline was thought up by blogger and mum of four boys (yes, four) Kerry Gibb from myboysandme.co.uk.On a particulary naughty day in her household, amid cries of, ‘Mum, he hit me!’ ‘Mum, he took my toy!’, Kerry decided that she was sick of thinking up punishments for … I’d never turn around at Disney world! Actually, I was spanked. We were all disciplined in one way or another and most of us grow up to be decent hums beings who understand the basics of cause and effect. But what is embarrassment compared to the consequence of not learning the lesson? Fortunately, they rarely ‘misbehave’ because they are respeceted and treated as human beings. Every time I did something she thought was wrong (such as not eating with utensils as a baby or coughing while she was on the phone) she would beat my ass. I think this is a form of humiliation and a child should never be humiliated for punishment … The punishment was actually the relief. Then when we were called back, they sat us down and explained why we were being punished. The recipients' names are hard to see in this picture. However, the use of corporal punishment has too great of I possibility of teaching that violence is okay, and THAT, RIGHT THERE, IS WHERE THE REAL TROUBLE IS!!!! Search for; Mertiso’s tips It stung (All staff got 5 swats before their contract was signed.) This old-fashioned house rule gave kids some freedom, but within certain boundaries. But the ultimate punishment was having to take off all your clothes and get whipped naked with the belt. I knew there had to be a consequence. You can’t breed animals and cry when they bite you. It sucked since it was my oldest sister and me and my other sister did not do anything wrong (we really didn’t know who did it, just that we hadn’t) but we learned my Dad meant business and that telling the truth was always the best option. Once when I was about 12, It was my birthday and I was upset that I didn’t get a gift that I wanted, so I was being bratty and not cutting cake for anyone but myself. That stung like nothing else! I wanted to hear the stuff family legends are made of. Half the kids got a couple swats for something once a week. She took that dress back and I missed prom that year. He took his belt, and said that he was going to beat the evil jezebell out of me. I had suicidal ideations and had undiagnosed depression. And, as this photo proves, sometimes my mom even took a funny photo of us, mid-punishment! Nothing. Beatings are just lazy parenting, like the dad beating innocent kids to prove he’s boss they are done out of frustrátion and a over reactions. 1. my parents were fairly strict when it came to what us kids were allowed to watch on tv. After he went back home to his mother’s, I unloaded the toys back into his toy box, sorting out the ones I knew he no longer played with or was too old for to donate to Goodwill. Then I asked where he had heard it and he told me his mother said it every time she hung up the phone after talking to me. Using a belt on a child for lying is not good parenting. I was hit with a hand, and a wooden spoon. I guess jesus died and left you in charge. It was a complete and utter disaster, and there was no way he’d be able to pull something decent together (he ended up with something like a D on the whole project). A few of my clever punishments when I worked as a nanny are: Always giving the child a chance to win back whatever they lost with bad behaviour. “Time outs” are a ridiculous way to instill respect for their parents, and other humans in general. They lost there special bond just because she took her mskeup away. Some of these in the blog are hilarious, some very well thought out. (Yup, I was a weird kid.) One of my brothers (I have 7, all older) was in a massive fight with my mom when he declared that he was going to call the cops and leave the home (he was about 13 at the time) if she didn’t let him do whatever it was he wanted to do. My age is 14. My heart broke into a million pieces as I wrote about Rebel and I had to include in the ad why I was selling him. She has been very subdued since that realization. He came home from school one day and asked where his car was. THIS IS MUCH, MUCH WORSE THAN IF YOU MOLESTED THEM!!!! After he cleaned his room and we had dinner I asked him if he knew what B I T C H meant (yes, I spelled it to him) When he said no, I told him to never use words like that if he didn’t know their meaning. She was very upset to have to explain this to total strangers, but she has never taken anything that didn’t belong to her since (she also had a habit of bringing things home from the classroom….that they didn’t “need” anymore). She told me I had embarrassed her, I replied that her bratty, disruptive behavior in school embarrassed me. Currency Friday morning as I was leaving for work, one of them asked if they could have “kid coffee” and I said no, no coffee, it was for their older brother, who was watching them while their dad and I were both at work. I have been battling depression and lack of confidence my entire life (I am 65) because of the physical and verbal abuse I endured. This old-fashioned house rule gave kids some freedom, but within certain boundaries. Yes, put in jail. I snuck out for s bit of puddle jumping. Eg.Child losing 5mins of … I thought my Dad was an asshole. However, this punishment was well deserved- he burned the garage down playing with matches. Take it from the Old Testament, strict corporal punishment has been a popular form of discipline for a long time. As teenagers they are now unbelievably, and sometimes overwhelmingly, honest with me! I went into the kitchen and got the trash can and brought it into his room, before I got a chance to pick up a single toy, he grabbed the can, started bawling his head off and began picking up the toys and throwing them in the can himself. Sad but true if you spank you are either lazy or too simple to find an alternative form of punishment that doesn’t degrade, or physically hurt them. But each time it happened, it was not done in a moment of anger. I, being a smart ass teenage, was able to get another phone from a friend. So I made Liam sit with me on a bench for the next 2 hours while all the other kids ran and played in the water park. My children understand their actions have consequences, they know when we mean business and we have never hit them once. If you keep it up, you won’t get either one.” She immediately fell silent and quietly asked for the drink. How to get it? For instance the value if keeping your mouth shut rather than condemning a strangers parenting. Up in smoke they went, and a legend was born. He admitted (at age 5) that no other consequences fazed him as they didn’t matter & he would be fine (no electronics or games, no snacks/treats, no playing with friends, doing extra chores, & so on). In some factories children were dipped head first into the water cistern if they became too tired to work. Needless to say they continued fighting, do the next day when I went to work I took all the cords and controllers to work with me. 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