Just like if tomorrow, my bio daughter got some disease, I would never regret having her. I’m especially grateful when people with difficult adoptive experiences share their struggles, so we can support one another + hopefully other adoptive-families can learn from those experiences; and equally when people with happier adoptive experience share what worked for them and their family. My wife and I have been discussing adoption for years, I have been doing quite a bit of due diligence and educating myself. Part of that is caring for your child no matter what, part of that is letting your child blossom away from all the emotional baggage you hold, and the other part of that is loving and supporting your child unconditionally. I think if you’re prepared to address mental health concerns and supportive if your child wants to connect with their birth family, then you’ll be ok. My sibling and I are adopted. If you regret placing your child because you were forced to place, you will need a much different plan of action than if you chose to place and are having a hard time being separated from your child. I have grown up being marginalized as a mixed race person, or been called a ‘banana’ especially because I don’t look “Asian” I just have dark skin and features. I think the thing to remember is that you're more likely to speak up or write if you've got a complaint. It is called a disruption. 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Share your funny and crazy stories in the comments! It's just very odd. Adoption Regret. I would describe myself as having a good relationship with my APs, that being said I am horrified by some of the stories some adoptees have posted here and on other groups. A parent sent their toddler in wearing a pretty white dress and screamed at us when it got to home time and the dress was no longer a pristine white. considering surrendering a child. It's been no time at all and I know that adopting a dog-especially for me as first time owner-is … New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. Have adopted twice, don't regret it at all. 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We are blessed that he has a great job with a great company and we have a roof over our heads, food on the table, clothes on our backs and affords us the ability to buy things we want and not just things we need. It's made things much more pleasant for us. If you regret having placed your child for adoption, I think your subsequent actions heavily depend on what your initial intent for placement was. Previous to my experience, movies like this are what I based my vision of adoption on. He is with his parents who can give him the world. I can't find proof either way on this, and don't know how you'd test for it. A lot of it seems to be Americans who have experience of domestic infant adoption applying that to other forms of adoption. Neither of us was special needs, etc. I know that there is heartache and frustration when an adopted child is sick or requires special attention just as there is with bio children. A good nursery will do a lot of outdoor and messy play and clothes have to be sacrificed. Not to mention I see many happy adoptees here as well, and I’d hate to see them undercounted or unrecognized! Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts, this was one of the most compassionate, insightful exchanges. For adoptive families, birth families, adoptees, and other interested individuals to share stories, support each other, and discuss adoption-related news. The day I signed the adoption papers was the most difficult day of my life, but I never once regret the decision I made. I know adoption regret is not uncommon but when i've read about it a lot of people were saying that it went away after a bit and that things turned out fine. 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So I am mixed Japanese-American and have considered the grueling process of adopting a child From Japan. They told me a brief description of him (1 year old, can get along with female cats, sweet), and then I got to see a couple pictures of him, and that was that. ._33axOHPa8DzNnTmwzen-wO{display:block;padding:0 16px;width:100%}.isNotInButtons2020 ._33axOHPa8DzNnTmwzen-wO{font-size:14px;font-weight:700;letter-spacing:.5px;line-height:32px;text-transform:uppercase} It was unfortunate that the first adoption process had to be such a battle, but I would fight that battle 10 times over for my daughter. If you are: considering adopting a child . And it’s true–but sometimes I regret my decision to place my baby for adoption. I’ll link them at the bottom of this comment. I think the third party contact thing is being mentioned, because you chose another route, and mention you regret it. I also know a few people my age who are adopted (30-40). I didnt sign up for this to save someone and get gratitude and ride off into the sunset. So the state would put her up for adoption. Neither of us was special needs, etc. r/Adoption welcomes all members of the adoption triad: adoptive families, birth families, and adoptees. 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I have noticed the sentiment on this sub is mostly negative towards adoption and I fully recognize there are a lot of adoptees and adoptive parents who struggle and my heart goes out to them. OMG! Maybe even the birth mother would be happy to have her child back. Most that I know chose to adopt a second or third time, so that must tell you something. Regardless of the numbers, I really appreciate that we have a sub where every adoptive experience is welcomed. None of these are genetically linked - these are personality traits that you either have or need to develop. Based on what I've learned as a psych student and being involved in communities of adoptees, I think how the parents raise an adopted child is the biggest factor in whether or not that child will be mentally healthy and their relationship with their adopted family, especially TRAs. Cry, uses the litter box, cuddles and sleeps with me, an all around great.. Depended on us 100 % how often I bathe him, he may have a child... 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